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  • Building Stronger Relationships: Mastering the Art of Setting Healthy Boundaries

    Boundaries are an important aspect of any healthy relationship. They define what is and is not acceptable behavior, and help ensure that everyone involved in the relationship is treated with respect and dignity. Setting healthy boundaries in relationships can be a challenge, but it is an essential step in maintaining a healthy and fulfilling relationship with others.

    1. Know what you want and need

    The first step in setting healthy boundaries is to know what you want and need. This requires taking a step back and reflecting on what is important to you, what you are comfortable with, and what is not acceptable. Understanding your own needs and desires is the foundation for setting healthy boundaries.

    1. Communicate your boundaries clearly

    Once you have a clear understanding of what you want and need, it’s important to communicate your boundaries clearly to others. This means expressing your boundaries in a calm and assertive manner, and being willing to stick to them even if it is uncomfortable.

    1. Be assertive, but not aggressive

    It’s important to be assertive when setting boundaries, but not aggressive. This means communicating your boundaries in a confident and respectful manner, while also being open to feedback and discussion. Aggressive behavior can push people away and damage relationships, while assertiveness can help build trust and respect.

    1. Respect others’ boundaries

    Just as it’s important to set your own boundaries, it’s also important to respect the boundaries of others. This means understanding that everyone’s boundaries are different, and being willing to listen and understand their perspective. When you respect the boundaries of others, you build trust and create a safe and healthy environment for everyone involved.

    1. Re-evaluate your boundaries regularly

    Boundaries are not set in stone, and it’s important to re-evaluate them regularly. This means reflecting on your boundaries and considering whether they are still relevant and serving your needs. If you find that your boundaries are no longer working for you, it may be time to adjust them.

    1. Seek support from a therapist

    If you are having trouble setting healthy boundaries in relationships, it may be helpful to seek support from a therapist. A therapist can help you understand your own needs and desires, and provide guidance on how to communicate your boundaries effectively. They can also help you navigate challenging relationships and develop healthy coping strategies for dealing with stress.

    1. Practice self-care

    Finally, it’s important to practice self-care when setting boundaries in relationships. This means taking care of your own physical, emotional, and mental health, and making sure that you are putting yourself first. When you prioritize self-care, you are better equipped to set healthy boundaries and maintain healthy relationships with others.

    In conclusion, setting healthy boundaries in relationships is essential for maintaining a healthy and fulfilling relationship with others. By understanding what you want and need, communicating your boundaries clearly, being assertive but not aggressive, respecting others’ boundaries, re-evaluating your boundaries regularly, seeking support from a therapist, and practicing self-care, you can create strong and meaningful relationships with others.


    Jenmarie Eadie is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker who is passionate about empowering women to take control of their mental health by finding balance and inner peace in the midst of perfectionism and anxiety. She received her Master’s in Social Work from Arizona State with a concentration in Behavioral Health. Her proudest accomplishment is following her dream of opening up a practice focused on helping high-achieving, goal-oriented women. She currently serves women in California and Oregon (CA LCSW# 66634 and OR# L13328).