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  • The Comparison Game: How to Recognize and Break Free from Unhealthy Social Comparison

    We live in a world where social media and technology make it easier than ever to compare ourselves to others. We see the highlight reel of other people’s lives, and it’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking that everyone else has it all together. But the truth is, we all have our own struggles and insecurities. Comparing ourselves to others can lead to feelings of inadequacy, low self-esteem, and even depression. In this blog post, we’ll explore some tips for how to stop comparing yourself to others, and how to find true happiness within yourself.

    1. 1. Recognize that social media is not reality. Remember that social media is not an accurate representation of real life. People only post the best parts of their lives, so you’re not seeing the whole picture. Try to keep in mind that everyone has their own struggles and insecurities, regardless of how “perfect” their lives may seem on social media.

    2. 2. Focus on your own progress. Instead of comparing yourself to others, focus on your own progress. Think about how far you’ve come and the things you’ve accomplished. Celebrate your successes, no matter how small they may seem. This will help you to feel a sense of accomplishment and pride in yourself.

    3. 3. Practice gratitude. Gratitude is one of the most powerful tools for shifting your focus away from comparison. Take a moment each day to think about the things you’re thankful for in your life. This will help you to appreciate what you have and focus on the positive aspects of your life, rather than dwelling on what you don’t have.

    4. 4. Cultivate self-compassion. It’s easy to be hard on ourselves when we compare ourselves to others. But self-compassion is key to finding true happiness. Be kind to yourself and remember that you are doing the best you can with what you have.

    5. 5. Remember that everyone is unique. Remind yourself that everyone is unique and has their own path in life. It’s not fair or accurate to compare yourself to others, because you are not them, and they are not you. Embrace your own uniqueness and focus on your own journey.

    Comparing ourselves to others is a natural human tendency, however, it can lead to negative feelings and thoughts. By recognizing that social media is not reality, focusing on our own progress, practicing gratitude, cultivating self-compassion, and remembering that everyone is unique, we can learn to stop comparing ourselves to others and find true happiness within ourselves.


    Jenmarie Eadie is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker who is passionate about empowering women to take control of their mental health by finding balance and inner peace in the midst of perfectionism and anxiety. She received her Master’s in Social Work from Arizona State with a concentration in Behavioral Health. Her proudest accomplishment is following her dream of opening up a practice focused on helping high-achieving, goal-oriented women. She currently serves women in California and Oregon (CA LCSW# 66634 and OR# L13328).