I help stressed out children and teens calm down and gain confidence and control.
Please scroll down through my videos to get to know me, and learn more about how I can help you and your child. If it feels like a good fit, schedule a free phone consultation. I’d love to help you get started, today.
Child therapy is more than just “fixing” your child
Highlight quote: “The goal here is not just to fix your child, but to help heal the disconnect you may have felt with your child while your child’s behaviors have gotten significantly more challenging over the past few weeks or months.”
There’s no such as thing as a bad kid (or a bad parent)
Highlight quote: “There are certainly children out there with challenging behaviors, but at the heart of it they are good kids with a lot of strengths and a lot to add to life.”
Why I became a therapist (it’s because of my Mom!)
Highlight quote: “My belief is that the most important people in a child’s life are the parents, and if you want to see change in a child’s behavior, it’s the parents who are the most important people to make that change happen. I’m still grateful to my mom everyday for the fact that she was the change agent in my life.”
Tools and toys I use in my therapy sessions with tweens
Highlight quote: “A lot of times moms call and they ask me ‘How can you help my child, I can’t seem to get through to my kid.’ When your kid comes in to therapy, he’s going to have a lot of feelings inside of him, and if he’s not into talking, one of the things I say is ‘You don’t have to talk. We can play it out, draw it out. I have sand tray, and I’ve got games.’ There’s a number of things I can do to help your kid understand what’s going on, and how to feel better.”
Do I work with fathers? You bet I do!
Highlight quote: “I think dads are often perceived as less involved in their children’s lives. But what I’ve found is that’s really not true. I work with a lot of fathers who are invested in their child’s treatment. I’ve found that dads can be really forthcoming and have genuine desires to improve some aspect of their relationship with their kid or at least recognize their kid is really struggling and that they want to help. ”
Depression or just “the blues”?
Highlight quote: “Sadness happens. In fact, it’ a good thing, because it means something is important to your child and they care about it. But when your child gets to the level of depression…that’s a sign your child needs help from a mental health professional.”
How to help your indecisive child make a decision”?
Highlight quote: “If you have an indecisive child, likely the biggest contributor to that is anxiety. Your child needs your support and there are a couple of things you can do.”
Holidays with kids: 7 ways to handle problem behavior at the in-laws”?
Highlight quote: “You’ve probably had stress about your child’s behavior and perhaps you’re a little concerned about whether that’s going to happen at the in-laws and what you can do about that.”
Parent Empowerment: Reclaiming your rights as a parent
Highlight quote: “The feedback I get from the parents I work with is that parents FEAR discipline because they are afraid they are going to damage their children. “
Irritable depression: when your child is sad AND mad
Highlight quote: “Unfortunately, it’s easy to attribute your child’s irritability to attitude and disrespect, when it actually could be a sign of depression! This is problematic because the way you would address your child’s irritable attitude, is different than how you would treat his irritable depression.”
5 hard-and-fast rules for giving kids choices
Highlight quote: “I’m sure you’ve heard of giving choices as a strategy, so if it isn’t working for you, it might be because you’re not following one of these five rules.”
How to help your emotionally overwhelmed child
Highlight quote: “Some children have a lower level of tolerance for frustration and stress than others. When their stress level spills over (the line of what they are able to handle) those strong emotional reactions come out. “
Does your child have ADHD or could it be something else?
Highlight quote: “The thing with ADD and ADHD is that many of the symptoms of those disorders are also found in anxiety and depressive disorders, and oppositional defiant disorder. It’s typically best to seek out a mental health professional to sort out what’s what. [Otherwise] you might be working to fix one disorder but it might be something else entirely.”
Anxiety in your school age child: what’s normal and what’s not?
Highlight quote: “There are a lot of things that can make your child anxious. Anxiety is not necessarily a bad thing. But there are things that you need to look for that cross the line between “healthy” anxiety and “unhealthy” anxiety.”
Finding yourself in a constant power struggle with your child?
Highlight quote: “If you’ve noticed you have butted heads or you argue back and forth, you are probably in a power struggle. The emphasis is on who gets the last word and who gets their way. Ultimately it ends up in a situation where you’re throwing your hands up or someone runs screaming from the room and slamming the door.”
The power of praising your parenting skills
Highlight quote: “Praise is important because it keeps us going. It’s our mind’s ability to identify: “This is right, I like that, it feels good, and I want to keep trying.” [Being the parent] of a child who has anxiety or depression or defiance can be an uphill battle. It’s a daily commitment to keep on helping your child with all their [challenges]. That’s really not possible to do unless you’re giving yourself credit for all the good work you’re doing. “
The most effective phrase that will improve communication with your child
Highlight quote: “The reason why this phrase is so effective is because it allows your child to guide the conversation where she wants it to go. It opens up the dialogue for you to show your child “I’m listening” and to do it without giving any advice or criticism or even feedback.”
How to use books to boost your child’s social skills
Highlight quote: “These books can be enlightening because it has characters that are dealing with challenges [similar to your child’s] and it goes through ways in which the characters figure out a way to cope with them.”
How doing a self check-in of your own emotions can help your child
Highlight quote: “One of the things you need to ask yourself is ‘What is behind my child’s anger and why is that so angering to me? What is it about what I’ve been through in my life that may be causing me to react this way?’ When you have the answer to that question, that’s going to be a big key in opening the mystery about why your child gets so angry and upset too.”
An introduction to your child’s anxiety
Highlight quote: “A lot of times anxiety will look like anger because your child is having a hard time dealing with what’s going on around her. She can be more reactive to her environment than she’d like because she’s just not calm on the inside.”
From fussy to explosive: understanding your tween’s anger
Highlight quote: “Anger is like an iceberg. An iceberg has a tip that pops out of the water, but is very small compared to the whole chunk of ice underneath. Your child’s anger explosion is the tip, and the chunk of ice is the reason for it. If you can work with your child to heal the underlying anger, the explosion won’t need to happen!”
How to help your child’s father understand why your child needs therapy
Highlight quote: “Most of the fathers I work with were aware (their child was having challenges) but it was really hard for them to bring it up themselves. The fact that you can bring it (to your child’s father) can help the family as a whole.”
How to use fidget toys to help calm your stressed, anxious, or angry child
Highlight quote: “When your child is stressed you probably notice it in her body. Maybe she moves her hands around, squeezes her fist, or paces. These are signs that your kid is saying ‘I need help controlling my stress.’ One of the ways to do that is to give her a fidget toy.”
The difficulty of parenting a child who is really nothing like you
Highlight quote: “There are different temperaments and personalities and sometimes your child is not like you! And that’s ok too.”
3 reasons your tween lies and what you can do about it
Highlight quote: “Your child is aware that if she tells the truth she may disappoint you or hurt your feelings. This sensitivity is a strength! It means your child is thinking more about you than herself, is trying to be sensitive to your needs, and is attempting to protect you from hurt or pain.”
Compassionate discipline for your difficult child
Highlight quote: “When you work on how you perceive your child [from a compassionate mindset] it’s amazing how much that influences your child’s behaviors and you can see the change from the negative to the positive.”
Reduce sibling conflict by banning roughhousing
Highlight quote: “You don’t have time to be the referee every time your kids get into a squabble. The best way to solve this is to sit down with your kids and talk about the problem you’re noticing.”
Is your child’s defiance getting out of hand?
Highlight quote: “Working with defiance right in front of you is a parallel process of managing your [emotions] so you can stay calm in the moment so you can help your child with whatever he or she is struggling with.”