It was an overwhelming decision, and it’s been weighing on your heart and mind for a long time: you’ve finally decided getting a divorce is the right decision for you. You’re highly aware that your child will be affected, but you want to minimize the negative impact, and support your child through this difficult adjustment.
That’s wonderful. You know it’s going to be difficult and your heart breaks for your child. What you need most right now is information and guidance.
Keep reading for the ultimate resource guide I’ve compiled to help you and your child through this tough time.
Explaining divorce to your child
One of the biggest questions I get from divorcing parents is “How do I tell my child?” Excellent question, and a tough one as well, because the answer depends on your child’s age and emotional maturity. Check out the articles below to help sort out the best way to break the news to your kid.
Helping your child cope with divorce
Now that your child knows (or is about to know) about your divorce, he is going to have a multitude of emotions and thoughts about it. If you are struggling with how to begin to help him with these tough feelings, check out these articles for some much needed tips and techniques.
Helping your child adjust to living in two homes
One of the most painful and confusing parts of divorce for children is the realization that they will soon live in two homes. Your child will have a lot of questions about how that will work. Learn the the ins and outs and the dos and don’ts about how to make this a smooth transition. This will go a long way in your child’s overall adjustment to the divorce.
Books for your child about divorce
Books are another way to educate your child about the divorce and help him feel “normal.” It can also reassure him that ultimately he’s going to be OK.
Effective co-parenting after a divorce
You will always be connectd to your ex via your children whether you like it or not. My BIGGEST wish for parents following a divorce is that they focus on their co-parenting skills from the beginning of the divorce. Most of the children of divorce who I see in my practice are in therapy because their parents have really struggled to have a peaceful, cohesive parenting plan.
Self-care for you during divorce
All your child wants is a physically and emotionally healthy and stable parent. There is not much more in life that will shake up your world, and your child’s, than divorce. Developing your own self-care strategy can help you stay emotionally available to your child during this time.
Bottom line: Divorce is hard for everybody. With a little research you can begin the adjustment for you and your child.
If you find that your child is struggling with adjusting to your divorce and is crying more than usual, angry and defiant, or having difficulty at school, don’t hesitate to reach out for help. I can help your child cope with the divorce, and adjust to this change. You will receive feedback, strategies, and recommendations based on knowledge of your child’s specific emotional needs and developmental capacities.
Jenmarie Eadie is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker who is passionate about helping children to become less stressed by giving them and their parents tools, support and encouragement. She received her Master’s in Social Work from Arizona State with a dual concentration in Children, Youth, and Families; and Behavioral Health. Her proudest accomplishment is following her dream of opening up a practice that is designed to focus on the whole family. She currently serves families in Southern California.