Love comes in so many different forms nowadays, but nothing is more beneficial to the well-being of your children than when the love you give is the kind that comes without a price tag.
Check out below the ultimate list of 15 free ways to show your children you love them.
(P.S. You’re going to love #12!)
- Pick them up from school
Being there for this daily routine shows your children you care about them and their education.
- Look them in the eye when they talk
Eye contact shows your children you’re truly listening, and it helps boost their self-confidence and social skills.
- Spending time outdoors
Parks and playgrounds are a great way to connect with your children. Bonus points if you put your phones on silent and spend the afternoon unplugged.
- Let them win a game
This is one my best friend asked me to put in the list. She remembers a childhood where her mother would always try to best her, depleting my friend of self-confidence. Giving your children the experience of winning helps energize your child to keep trying.
- Say “I’m hear when you need to talk”
Even more helpful than giving advice, give your children the freedom to talk when their ready to open up.
- Teach them to stand up for themselves
Learning to stand up for themselves from you helps your children to reduce their stress, promote healthy communication, and teaches boundaries and respect.
- Ask them what their hopes and dreams are
Nothing says “I love you” like caring enough to ask your children thoughts about their future, and helping them to set goals.
- Do a stress-relieving mandala together
Participating in a stress-relieving activity is not only good for you and your child, it’s good for your relationship when you do it together.
- Thank them when their being good
Your children are already conditioned to know when they’ve been making bad choices. Condition them to make good ones by pointing out when they’ve done something right.
- Hold them if they have nightmares
I know it’s tempting to mutter “go back to bed” when they come to your bedside. Giving them a hug or sitting with them at their bedside will go a long way in helping them conquer those bedtime monsters.
- Watch their media diet
I cannot believe how much terror and sadness is on the daily news. Your children are seeing much more than you know. Monitor how much they see and sit and talk with them about it, so you can show them love by filtering out some of that stress.
- Work on your stress level
No, your children will not be ok if you are not ok. Tell them you love them by taking care of yourself, too.
- Say yes when you want to say no
I know you have to set boundaries and turn down lots of requests, but believe it or not, finding a way to turn “no” into “yes” will make your life less stressed and your child happy. Check out this post for how to do it.
- Show an interest in what interests them
You know how good it feels when someone takes an interest in your passions? Your children aren’t that much different. Whether it’s Star Ways, the latest photo on Instagram, or the new boy at school, express an interest in learning more.
- Eliminate put-downs
No doubt about it, your bond with your child will grow when you boost your children up instead of putting them down.
Bottom line: While your children may think love looks like you buying them the newest iPhone, it’s the gifts that don’t come with a price tag that are what your children need the most.
Please comment below: How do you show your children you love them?
Jenmarie Eadie is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker who is passionate about helping children to become less stressed by giving them and their parents tools, support and encouragement. She received her Master’s in Social Work from Arizona State with a dual concentration in Children, Youth, and Families; and Behavioral Health. Her proudest accomplishment is following her dream of opening up a practice that is designed to focus on the whole family. She currently serves families in Southern California.