Do you find that your child struggles with handling the daily stresses that comes her way? Does she always seem on the brink of tears, or ready to fly off the handle, if her day isn’t going the way she’d like it to?
You may have an emotionally overwhelmed child on your hands.
Your child may have a a lower level of tolerance for the frustrating events that unfold on a daily basis. Add to that the responsibilities of being a child/teen at school…no wonder she’s overwhelmed! Your child’s frustration “bar” might be a little bit lower than you (and probably she) would like.
Signs that there is an overwhelming part of your child’s life that is emotionally draining for her:
- tearing up or uncontrolled crying
- withdrawing into her room
- temper tantrums
- anger outbursts
- attitude and defiance
- fatigue and exhaustion
- anxiety and feeling nervous
How you can help your child with her emotions
First, when a child is overwhelmed with all the tasks, commitments and responsibilities in her life she may become physically drained which can lead to emotional burnout.
- Evaluate how much your child is doing in life. What does her daily routine look like?
She may be very busy with school, hours of homework, after school activities (or having to attend a sibling’s after school activities), doctor’s appointments, family commitments, etc etc etc.!
It can be helpful to write it all down on a piece of paper. The amount of what you write down may surprise you.
Is there anything you and your child could change, tweak, or take away to alleviate some of the pressure? Sometimes having more time for your child to be a child can be enough for her to relax and deal with each stress as it comes.
2. Help your child be able to calm down the intense emotions she’s feeling (also called self-soothing).
The goal here is to reduce your child’s emotional reactivity to the stressful situation. You want her to be able to say “I’m ok. I can do this. I’ve got this handled. Even if I don’t I know how to do it myself, I can reach out to mom (or dad or teacher or whomever) for support.”
Nothing beats your child’s ability to implement positive self-talk as the first line of defense in handling day to day stress.
Bottom line: If you’ve noticed that you’ve tried these strategies and your child is still emotionally overwhelmed or you are having challenges even getting to the point of helping your child calm herself down, you’re not alone. Please don’t hesitate to give me a call at 909-232-2935 and click the red button below to schedule a free consultation.
Jenmarie Eadie is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker who is passionate about helping children to become less stressed by giving them and their parents tools, support and encouragement. She received her Master’s in Social Work from Arizona State with a dual concentration in Children, Youth, and Families; and Behavioral Health. Her proudest accomplishment is following her dream of opening up a practice that is designed to focus on the whole family. She currently serves families in Southern California.